So what is the real difference between fashion and style?
Fashion is the relationship to the external.
It is concerned with “what’s out there” (what everybody is wearing, what's in the stores now?). It’s a matching process between what’s there to what I’m wearing.
Style is the relationship to the internal.
It’s about “what’s in here” (my sense of self, my identity, my perception of who I am). Does what I am wearing reflects who I am and how I feel about myself?
Fashion distracts, style connects
Fashion takes our attention away from ourselves, style brings our attention directly to ourselves.
You, or the clothes?
With fashion the emphasis is on the clothing, the items deemed to be fashionable. With style, it’s on the person.
Fashion can be a way to distance yourself from yourself, which may be a desirable thing for some people at certain points in time.
Style is a way to make closer your relationship to yourself, as its focus and orientation is on the self.
Loving and honouring yourself
I think it’s all about truly, truly knowing yourself, loving yourself – not just modifying, covering flaws, etc. – but loving yourself exactly the way you are right now – and dressing to honor that.